Building Your Perfect Wedding Ceremony – 13 Promises to Support Merging Families at Your Wedding
July 29, 2009 by Elegant Bridal Accessories
Filed under Bridal Ideas
Family Sand Ceremony Generally the sand is poured into the central vase in the following order: 1.Father 2.Mother 3.Children 4.Father and Mother together.
Getting married with children lowers your chances of successful long-term marriage. Surprisingly, even if the children are yours, it makes it more difficult to negotiate marital stressors.
So, what do you do to help move yourself to the 80 percent who make those marriages work from the 20 percent who do not?
One way is to plan ahead for the difficulties. Anticipate some of the problems, so that this will not be as hard as if you assume “everything will just work out well. Do some research, find out what some of the common pitfalls are and figure out how to avoid them. Don’t hesitate to get counseling early for your differences and obstacles. Families add a great deal of pressure to new marriages. Your marriage and this emerging family deserve a chance.
Once you’ve planned for the problems, make yourselves some promises about them. In your wedding vows, you want to keep your focus on your marriage. Because you are going to have to keep your marriage strong to merge this family. You can, but if you make some promises to one another and to the kids before you make your wedding vows, you’re going to do better to and for one another and for the kids.
Promise one another:
- To support one another as parents.
- To understand the primary relationship your partner has with his/her children.
- To tenderly care for and mentor all the children, yours, mine and ours.
- To devote yourself to the good of the whole family.
Promise the children:
- That you will be present to them and support them in their growth.
- That you are committed to the whole family’s health, happiness and well-being.
- That you will not try to usurp the absent parent’s role
- That you will love and cherish your partner
- That you will love and cherish them.
Ask the children to promise:
- To participate in the growth and well-being of this family.
- To be considerate of each member of the family.
- To support the marriage.
- To be open to your love and the life you will live together.
Use the wedding ceremony to acknowledge your life. Plan for your happiness and then pursue it every day of your marriage. Rely on your wedding vows and rely on the promises that bound you all together as family. If it gets rocky, get help. And when it’s great, celebrate it. Everyone responds positively to celebration! Go ahead and make your marriage and your merging family successful. If you’re doing the work, you’re poised to win the prize!
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all, you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it! There’s a lot more info to help you create the wedding ceremony of your dreams, the wedding vows of your heart and the marriage of a lifetime over on my website: http://annkeelerevans.org And to help you create the wedding vows that will become the blueprint for your incredible, happily and healthily ever-after marriage, I’d like to invite you to sign up to receive 2 free wedding vow templates: http://annkeelerevans.org/weddings/free Go on! I dare you, be happy together!
The Rev. Ann Keeler Evans, The Wedding Priestess – helping you move from “I do” to happily and healthily ever after!
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